Wisdom CouncilDR. MICHAEL O'SHAYHOW DOES WORRY AFFECT YOU AND OTHERS?Let's define worry as: to annoy or bother; to make troubled or uneasy; to be anxious. That's sounds pretty much correct from what we can see. Somewhere in a past life you picked up the belief that if you worried about something or someone it helps them or you avoid that situation. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact you are sending them the nastiest ugly stuff that's designed to actually create the very thing you want avoid happen. The reason for that is your mind does not understand that you DON'T what that to happen. It only sees and hears the words and pictures. Consequently its job is to create what you are thinking and saying. If you want a visual to use worry is like sending a nasty, black, slimy glob of thoughts and energies which end up sitting in that person you love and comes back to you even stronger. Now that we've defined worry you might ask what's an alternative ? I would tell you OBSERVE is much better and more productive. Let's say the definition of observe is to notice something or pay special attention to it or come to a conclusion. Now that's different because 1) you aren't in the emotions, 2) you aren't sending fear with your thoughts, 3) you can actually see and create much easier what you really want. Let's say you're just observing a football game and aren't really invested in the outcome. Your reactions and observations would look very different from someone who had a loved one on that team or are loyal to that team. Now we totally understand that this worry thing got so incorporated into your whole lifestyle and thought process it's hard to stop it. So let's take a small test to see just how much worry has crept into your life. Rate the items listed below that you tend to worry about the most on a scale of 1-10. If you don't worry at all use 1. If you worry some use a 5. If you worry a lot about this use a 10. Answer this based on how much worrying you've done within the last year. Be honest with yourself if you really want to get something from this.
Are you surprised at your score? Do you worry more than you realized? It's interesting that the stress that goes along with worry can create illness in your body because it reduces the effectiveness of your immune system. So let's look at your scores. If your score is under 10 you're holding your own. If it's 10-13 you are susceptible to getting a cold. If it's 13-20 you will probably get sick with the flue or something that keeps you in bed or justifies a trip to the doctors. If it's above 20 there's a good chance you are creating something much stronger inside your body (disease) as your systems cannot work efficiently with this much stress and worry. How do you stop this worrying? Here are some suggestions:
This won't happen in a day or a week but the more you try this the stronger you become and discover that creating what you really want is so much better than worrying about those things you have little control over. You can actually feel better and have more fun in life once you release the need to worry.
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